Resources

For pleasure, education, wellness, kinky experiences, connection, and more.

Get Together

Let your hair down with like-minded people or build meaningful connections with these adult platforms, hot sex parties, and kink events.

Kinky Events

Killing Kittens host sex parties where kittens take the lead. They're also a community and platform that takes the shame out of sex.

Torture Garden are a Fetish and Body Art Club that host regular kinky events in London, with franchises and smaller parties going on across the world.

Klub Verboten is a 'provider of of contemporary pro-pervert spaces'. They host a range of kinky events where you can meet and play with like-minded people.

A collage of kinky stuff, like rope and whips and harnesses.

One Night Parties host events for femme-leaning people who want to find a sexual space to explore with other femme-leaning people, without the presence of entitled men.

Fetish Map London sell a guide to London's fetish scene and kinky communities. It costs £4 and has over 200 listings (with locations shown on a map of London).

SM Gays are a charity providing a space for gay men to learn about safe and consensual sadomasochism. They host monthly events offering courses and social opportunities with other kinksters.

Dating & Connection

Feeld is a dating app for the open, the curious, and the untraditional. There are so many ways to express who you are and what you're looking for, with a range of sexualities, gender identities, relationship dynamics, kinky preferences, and more to choose from on your profile.

FetLife is the perfect place for kinksters. It's a social media app designed for kinky people to connect, share their experiences, find local events, and explore more of what they like.

3Somer offers couples and singles a space to find like-minded people who are up for a threesome. Swingers, unicorns, people who like group sex; this one's for you!

Choice are a platform for finding verified paid companionship. By providing easier and safer to access to paid companionship, Choice hope to reduce the stigma surrounding it.

Erotic Content

Find films, videos, and audio-erotica that gets you going on these carefully curated apps and websites.

MakeLoveNotPorn is a platform for watching real sexy videos, free from porn cliches and carefully checked/curated to check for consent and context. Founded by the absolute badass Cindy Gallop, MLNP is about #RealWorldSex and pleasure.

Quinn is an app for audio erotica that's been "made by women, for the world."

Dipsea is a woman-centric platform with a range of audio erotica.

afterglow features ethical porn content made by women, for women.

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Kampsite is an audio-erotica platform for gay, bi, and curious men. They aim to offer modern connection to gay experiences, and regularly donate to the Trevor Project.

Lust Cinema promote and share cinematic porn, with high-quality storytelling and realistic representations of sex and people.

Pink.TV curate and share a catalogue of independent adult films/erotic movies that feature a diverse range of desires and show equity in sexual pleasure.

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Sextech

Explore the world of sextech, where sex and technology collide. A lot of the resources on this page count as sextech; the industry covers a WIDE range of products, services, and platforms.

Apps & Platforms

Emjoy is packed audio sessions designed to aid the 'journey to female pleasure'. You'll find stories, wellness sessions, and other great audio experiences.

Kama offer video tips and practises for people of all ages, genders, and sexualities to help transform pleasure and wellbeing, and connect mind, body, and heart.

Blueheart is an app that provides resources designed to guide you in the areas of sex, love, and connection. They offer solutions to libido issues, and rekindling the spark in your relationship.

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Beducated is pleasure-based sex education platform. They have a catalogue of courses that aim to help reduce shame, build confidence, and learn how to have great sex.

Ferly are an audio platform that specialise in guided audio programmes for enhancing sex and pleasure. Membership also includes access to a community of like-minded people, sensual stories, and journaling prompts.

Official is a relationship app that helps you and your partner to work on honesty, communication, and mutual exploration. The app offers prompts for connection and suggestions for the bedroom to help strengthen your bond and experience.

Misc. Tools

My Hixel offer "tech and science-based solutions for improving men's sex life", including products to help last longer, enhance erections, and assist hygiene and intimate care.

Ohnut is a soft 4-ring buffer designed to help with painful sex. The buffer can be adjusted so you and your partner can both have a good time, and experience the fun sensations minus the pain.

VDOM, designed by SkiiMoe, is an innovative solution in the world of genital prosthetics.

Sexual Wellness

Connect with the tools and insight you need to make informed decisions about your wellness, and get access to the right kind of support.

LVNDR help to make healthcare more accessible for the LGBTQ+ community by connecting queer folk to relevant and personalised healthcare services.

MysteryVibe design "clinically-proven, doctor-designed" vibrators and health devices to help tackle a range of intimate conditions.

The Lowdown is a space for women to review conditions, medicines, and side-effects to help other women make informed decisions about their bodies/healthcare treatments and plans.

Mojo is there to help penis-havers get their mojo back with natural solutions to erectile dysfunction.

Testmate offer compact, at-home urine test kits to check for four common STDs. (Please note: kits this is not a substitute for sexual health clinics. Consult your doctor/clinician if you have access to sexual healthcare).

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Sex Toys & Tools

Discover your next thrill with a range of stimulating sex toys and kinky accessories, from powerful vibrators to sturdy cuffs to luscious lingerie.

Unbound Babes are an iconic brand offering body safe toys, and lubes.

Dame create toys and sexual health products that aim to make wellness a pleasure.

Hanx are a sex positive and sustainable brand offering sexual wellness essentials.

Tabu provide 'the right tools (not toys)' to enhance sexual pleasure and wellbeing.

Sh! specialise in female-friendly sex toys and accessories, with a range curated by women.

Read All About It

Add some non-fiction books and online reading material to your TBR and see who else out there is joining in the conversations about sex and sexuality.

Books

The Ethical Slut (Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt) Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century (Sophia Smith Galer) How to Have Feminist Sex (Flo Perry) A Curious History of Sex (Kate Lister) Western Sexuality (Philippe Aries) DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation (Eric Sprankle) Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much (Jen Winston) Come As You Are (Emily Nagosk) Members Club: A User’s Guide to the Penis (Piet Hobeke) Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex (Mary Roach) Disability Intimacy: Essays on Love, Care, and Desire (Alice Wong) This Is Your Brain on Birth Control (Sarah E. Hill) Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic (Esther Perel) Tongue Ties: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships (Stella Harris) Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good (Adrienne Maree Brown)

Online Sources

The Pleasure Project are an organisation dedicated to championing pleasure-based sex education.

Fumble is a non-profit organisation offering free digital sex ed for the 21st century.