Let's Talk About the Trump Boys

Here we are, post-election in the United States. Right-wing populist movements have been happening in countries around the world such as Argentina, France, Chile, Italy, and Poland. The icon to the “Institution” has been Trump himself in America. The president-elect has swept both the popular and electoral votes, gaining a large audience among Gen-Z men. There’s been a farther right shift globally. How is this affecting sex and love lives of young women?

Young women across the U.S. are inspired by the 4B Movement of South Korea. Essentially, they are choosing to abstain from sex with men/partners who voted for Trump or abstain from sex completely. Single women are tired of their voices being denied and their safety being an afterthought. In turn, they’re denying men access to their bodies. No childbirth. No marriage. No sex. No dating. 

This is not something that spurred out of nowhere. There’s been an entire boy-sober movement before election season ramped up. Women are tired of giving everything and receiving morsels in return. The femmes are exhausted, including me. The dating scene is rough. Dating apps are not working for any of us. There’s got to be a better way out there. 

Politics is a big pillar for many people. For some, it comes down to their livelihood. There are TikToks and articles alike talking about how women avert dating Trump supporters–some may be married to/dating them, but “counterbalance” their vote. It’s a big source of contention in these relationships. Why can’t your partner understand the importance of your own rights? Now young men are trying to hide that they voted for Trump, just so they can still get with women. The political divide is very deep with younger female voters skewing liberal and more younger male voters casting ballots for Trump. Many folks have shared that they hid their election choice from those that they’re closest to, so that conflict was avoided. Now people on dating apps are claiming that they’re moderate which people are calling out as BS to cover a Trump vote.  So what do we do now? 

Emotions are high right now. I’m worried that they will fade, and the feminist celibacy movements alongside them. What really needs to happen is education and relationship mending. Everyone has the right to choose what happens to their bodies, and who they sleep with. What the male Trump voters need to understand is that their comfort is built on other’s oppression. This is not a conversation that can be had in a day. Or even a week. It may take years. 

Societies aren’t built of people who all think or act the same way. Differences are part of it, but we all share a part in the collective. These conversations need to be addressed in a way that bridges across the aisle. If he voted for Trump, then ask if he’s willing to have the conversation about women’s rights. If so, start the conversation. If not, then he may need to be thrown out in the 4B movement. 

Men are not going to inherently get why the Roe reversal was so devastating. They don’t understand the repercussions, societally and physically, of sex to women. Hetero men don’t have the same shame built into their sexual experiences. If they don’t get it, then they need to be educated on it. TBH, start here on Sex Tonic or another trusted platform (I personally love Cosmo). We all come from women, it’s time to respect them. Education is our job—none of us start out knowing the ways of the world. Any male vehemently against having the conversation is a part of the sinister problem. 

Feminists are not here to take away male rights. They’re not here to deny manhood. Men may be crying over not having sex, but many women aren’t. Right-wing populism is happening everywhere and women are finding new ways to address it. If the conversations can’t be had civilly, then we’ll hit where it’s most effective. They talk about the kitchen table issues, but we’re taking it to the bedroom.